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1. Thank you for participating in the narcissistic abuse survey!

The purpose of this survey is to generate a better understanding of narcissistic abuse, and those affected.This is an anonymous survey, but please leave your email address if you want to be in the drawing to win the book "The Gift of Fear."

1. The narcissist(s) in your life is/was (select all that apply):

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Boyfriend

Girlfriend

Husband

Wife

Mother

Father

Brother

Sister

Son

Daughter

Grandmother

Grandfather

Uncle

Aunt

Cousin

Friend

Colleague

Boss

Religious Leader

Other (Please Specify)

2. Are you currently in a relationship with a narcissist?

Yes

Co-parenting

Employment Requirement

3. How long has or had the relationship been in existence? (select number of years, round up to closest year or select 0 if relationship lasted under 6 months- select 50+ if over 50yrs.)

Note: relationship end date is based on when you went "no contact"

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4. If the relationship has ended, who ended it?

If the relationship has ended, but the narcissist is still making their presence known to you via others, email, drive-bys, calls, emails, or proxy AKA "hoovering" please select answers 3 or 4.

If the relationship has ended, but YOU are making YOUR presence known to them via others, email, drive-bys, calls, emails, or proxy AKA "hoovering" please select answers 5 or 6.

I did

Narcissist did

Narcissist ended relationship, but is hoovering

I ended relationship, but narcissist is hoovering

Narcissist ended relationship, but I AM hoovering

I ended relationship, but I AM "hoovering" narcissist

5. Were you raised in an abusive environment?

Yes

Other (Please Specify)

6. If you were raised in an abusive environment, what type of abuse did you endure:

Emotional

Physical

Sexual

All of the above

Other (Please Specify)

7. Did you suffer a recent loss prior to meeting the narcissist?

Yes

Does not apply

Other (Please Specify)

8. Have you ever been diagnosed with a mental illness or disorder? If so, did this disagnosis occur before or after meeting the N?

Diagnosed Before relationship with narcissist

Diagnosed After relationship with narcissist

No diagnosis of disorder or mental illness

Other (Please Specify)

9. Age of primary narcissist:

Other (Please Specify)

10. How long were you in the relationship before you noticed abuse such as the narcissist demeaning you, or putting you down? (select number of years, round up to closest year or select 0 if relationship lasted under 6 months- select 50+ if over 50yrs.)

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11. Did you have a religious belief encouraging you to stay?

Yes

Other (Please Specify)

12. Please select your personality type- select one that describes you most:
Codes are based on Myer-Briggs
16 different types are often referred to by an abbreviation of four letters, the initial letters of each of their four type preferences (except in the case of iNtuition, which uses N to distinguish it from Introversion). For instance:

ESTJ - Extraversion, Sensing, Thinking, Judging
INFP - Introversion, iNtuition, Feeling, Perceiving

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Extraverted Sensing (modern types: ESFP, ESTP)

Introverted Sensing (modern types: ISTJ, ISFJ)

Extraverted Intuition (modern types: ENFP, ENTP)

Introverted Intuition (modern types: INFJ, INTJ)

Extraverted Thinking (modern types: ESTJ, ENTJ)

Introverted Thinking (modern types: ISTP, INTP)

Extraverted Feeling (modern types: ESFJ, ENFJ)

Introverted Feeling (modern types: INFP, ISFP)

Other (Please Specify)

13. Did the narcissist cheat?
If yes, please note number of known affairs.

Yes-on me

Yes, on someone else (parent, sister etc.)

Number of affairs

14. Do you feel responsible for another persons actions?

Yes

15. Do you suppress your thoughts or feelings only later to "explode" in anger?

Yes

16. What is the biggest red flga/sign/symptomof narcissism you experienced:

(According to Nazare-Aga to be a narcissist, at least 14 items from this list must be present as permanent traits. For example almost everyone has told a lie at some points in their life, but lying only applies if a person uses lies as a habitual strategy)

Burdens others with guilt while appealing to family ties, friendship, professional ethics;

Evades responsibilities /pushes onto others;

Remains vague in the communication of his/her claims, needs, feelings and opinions;

Changes opinion, behaviour and feelings depending on people and situations;

Makes use of logical arguments to camouflage

Wants to make others believe that they have to be perfect, that they can never change their mind,

Disputes the qualities, the ability and the personality of others; criticises

Lets others convey his/her messages;

Creates havoc (fights), creates distrust, divides to be better able to rule;

Positions himself/herself as a victim to elicit compassion;

Ignores or does not honour requests even if he/she declares that they will be taken care of;

Misuses ethical principles of others to serve own interests;

Threatens in underhanded ways or commits open chantage (blackmail);

Suddenly changes the subject in the course of a conversation;

Avoids or flees relationships and togetherness;

Targets the ignorance of others and creates an impression of superiority;

Lies;

Tells lies to find out the truth

Is egocentric;

Can be jealous;

Does not bear criticism and negates evidence;

Does not care for the rights, opinions and wishes of others;of our own accord;

Is the subject of conversations all the time, even if he/she is not present.

Often uses the very last moment to give commands to others or to instigate them to act;

His/her words seem to be logical or coherent while the attitude is opposite;

He/she exerts himself/herself in making compliments in order to gain your sympathy,

Gives you an uneasy, unfree feeling;

Extremely expert in accomplishing own goals, but at the expense of others;

Pressures us to do things that we would not do of our own accord;

Is the subject of conversations all the time, even if he/she is not present. In order for a x

Glibness/superficial charm

Grandiose sense of self-worth

Need for stimulation/proneness to boredom

Pathological lying Conning/manipulative

Lack of remorse or guilt

Shallow affect (emotions)

Callous; lack of empathy

Parasitic lifestyle

Poor behavioral controls; aggressiveness

Promiscuous sexual behavior

Early behavior problems

Lack of realistic, long-term goals

Impulsivity Irresponsibility

Failure to accept responsibility for own actions

short-term marital relationships

Juvenile delinquency

Revocation of conditional release

Criminal versatility

Other (Please Specify)

17. Check ALL red flags/symptoms/ symptoms your experienced:
(According to Nazare-Aga to be a psychopath, at least 14 items from this list must be present as permanent traits to be diagnosed a narcissist. For example almost everyone has told a lie at some points in their life, but lying only applies if a person uses lies as a habitual strategy)

Burdens others with guilt while appealing to family ties, friendship, professional ethics;

Evades responsibilities /pushes onto others;

Remains vague in the communication of his/her claims, needs, feelings and opinions;

Changes opinion, behaviour and feelings depending on people and situations;

Makes use of logical arguments to camouflage cl

Wants to make others believe that they have to be perfect, that they can never change their mind, that

Disputes the qualities, the ability and the personality of others;criticises without giving that

Lets others convey his/her messages;

Creates havoc (fights), creates distrust, divides to be better able to rule;

Positions himself/herself as a victim to elicit compassion;

Ignores or does not honour requests even if he/she declares that they will be taken care of;

Misuses ethical principles of others to serve own interests;

Threatens in underhanded ways or commits open chantage (blackmail);

Suddenly changes the subject in the course of a conversation;

Avoids or flees relationships and togetherness;

Targets the ignorance of others and creates an impression of superiority;

Lies;

Tells lies to find out the truth

Is egocentric;

Can be jealous;

Does not bear criticism and negates evidence;

Does not care for the rights, opinions and wishes of others;of our own accord;

Is the subject of conversations all the time, even if he/she is not present.

Often uses the very last moment to give commands to others or to instigate them to act;

His/her words seem to be logical or coherent while the attitude and behaviour is opposite

He/she exerts himself/herself in making compliments in order to gain your sympathy,

Gives you an uneasy, unfree feeling;

Extremely expert in accomplishing own goals, but at the expense of others;

Pressures us to do things that we would not do of our own accord;

Subject of conversations all the time, even if he/she is not present. In order for a x

Glibness/superficial charm

Grandiose sense of self-worth

Need for stimulation/proneness to boredom

Pathological lying Conning/manipulative

Lack of remorse or guilt

Shallow affect (emotions)

Callous; lack of empathy

Parasitic lifestyle

Poor behavioral controls; aggressiveness

Promiscuous sexual behavior

Early behavior problems

Lack of realistic, long-term goals

Impulsivity Irresponsibility

Failure to accept responsibility for own actions

short-term marital relationships

Juvenile delinquency

Revocation of conditional release

Criminal versatility

Other (Please Specify)

18. Was the narcissist emotionally, physically and/or sexually abusive?

Emotional abusive

Physically abusive

Sexually abusive

All of the above

Other (Please Specify)

19. Do you find yourself repeating one bad relationship after another?

Yes

Other (Please Specify)

20. How many times has narcissist been married?

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Other (Please Specify)

21. Was the narcissist professionally diagnosed with any personality disorder or mental illness? If so, what?

Yes

Other (Please Specify)

22. Do you have hope the narcissist will get better and/or change?

Yes

23. As a victim of a narcissist, do you feel that part of who you used to be is now gone and you want the old you back?

Yes

Other (Please Specify)

24. Do you think your narcissist was and or is evil or effected by evil?

Other (Please Specify)

25. Were you warned by others about the narcissist?

Yes

Other (Please Specify)

26. Have you warned others about the narcissist?

Yes

Other (Please Specify)

27. Has the experience with the narcissist taught you anything? If so, please share!

Yes

Other (Please Specify)

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